While some people may be under the impression that marriage is as simple as saying “I do,” the truth is that marriage is so much more. Getting married itself is easy, yet making it last is something few people manage to do.
In fact, statistics show that divorce is more on the rise than ever with as many as three out of five marriages in the United states ending in divorce. Yet, there are still those who manage to not only make their marriage work, but thrive. If you want to know what it takes to make your marriage last well into your retirement years, then here are some secrets from couples who have made it.
Be Kind
It may seem simple, yet it’s so incredibly effective. Kindness goes a long way not only in life but in a partnership. The more that you can respond with kindness and compassion, the more likely your relationship is to succeed.
The simple act of saying “good morning” “good afternoon” and “good night” can go a long way in a marriage period even when you feel like biting each other’s heads off, holding your tongue and being willing to smile. As the old age saying goes, treat others the way you would like to be treated.
Let Things Go
There are some people that just can’t seem to let things go. When they’re mad about something they’re willing to stand their ground and fight until they convince the other person of their point of view.
Yet, the truth is no one is ever going to win if you frame this state of mind. Eventually you’re going to exhaust yourself trying to fight for your corner constantly. Sometimes, you just have to be willing to let it go and move on. Give up being right and your marriage will go a long way.
Trust Each Other
The key to love is trusting each other wholeheartedly. If you have any doubts or insecurities, this will only spoil your relationship and drive a wedge between you. Trust each other and avoid jealousy or possessiveness.
If you can’t seem to trust your spouse no matter how hard you try, then you may want to consider therapy, or ask yourself whether your lack of trust requires ending the relationship. In some cases a lack of trust may be merited as your spouse is dishonest. Whatever happens, you need to make a choice and act on it instead of living in a constant state of distrust.
Be Intimate
While intimacy is not the single most important part of our relationship, it’s certainly important. Intimacy is what sets your marriage apart from a platonic relationship and bonds you together in a divine way. The more you can show your partner physical touch through intimacy, the more you will display your appreciation for them.
